"There are three things you must ask yourself before you say anything…"
“I’ll never forget the day Marilyn and I were walking around New York City, just having a stroll on a nice day. She loved New York because no one bothered her there like they did in Hollywood, she could put on her plain-jane clothes and no one would notice her. She loved that. So as we we’re walking down Broadway, she turns to me and says ‘Do you want to see me become her?’ I didn’t know what she meant but I just said ‘Yes’- and then I saw it. I don’t know how to explain what she did because it was so very subtle, but she turned something on within herself that was almost like magic. And suddenly cars were slowing and people were turning their heads and stopping to stare. They were recognizing that this was Marilyn Monroe as if she pulled off a mask or something, even though a second ago nobody noticed her. I had never seen anything like it before.”
- Amy Greene, wife of Marilyn’s personal photographer Milton Greene
Maria Francesca Pepe
Complimenting talent is like saying Henry Cavill flies without wires.
#5. Thinking of Yourself as Naturally Gifted Takes Away Incentive to Work
Encouragement … is awful? Yes, but there’s something of a caveat here: Some kinds of encouragement are good, because painting that fence pure black or pure white is idiotic. Still, other kinds of encouragement will reduce you to some kind of lumbering dummy dum-dum. So how do you tell the difference? It’s simple: Praising someone for doing a whole bunch of work or putting a ton of effort into something will help them succeed. Praising them for being “a natural” or “gifted” doesn’t.